Why Many Relationships Are Failing In This Generation
The difference between a healthy and an unhealthy relationship comes down to two things:
1) how well each person in the relationship accepts responsibility.
2) the willingness of each person to both reject and be rejected by their partner.
Mark of an unhealthy relationship is two people who try to solve each other’s problems in order to feel good about themselves.
Rather, a healthy relationship is when two people solve their own problems in order to feel good about each other.
This doesn’t mean you can’t help or support your partner or be helped and supported yourself.
You both should support each other, but only because you choose to support and be supported. Not because you feel obligated or entitled.
Entitled people who blame others for their own emotions and actions do so because they believe that if they constantly paint themselves as victims, eventually someone will come along and save them, and they will receive the love they’ve always wanted.
Entitled people who take the blame for other people’s emotions and actions do so because they believe that if they “fix” their partner and save him or her, they will receive the love and appreciation they’ve always wanted.
Sadly, they both fail in meeting the other’s actual needs. In fact, their pattern of overblaming and overaccepting blame perpetuates the entitlement and shitty self-worth that have been keeping them from getting their emotional needs met in the first place.
That’s why many relationships in this generation is still crashing, because people fails to understand this simple logic.
Nobody owes you anything… And you owe no one anything.